How to Prepare for a Private School Interview (Not Just the Exam)
By Billie Geena Hyde
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Independent School Entrance
The written papers test what a child knows. The interview tests something the tutoring can’t fully fake — and that’s exactly the point.
It’s easy to see the interview as just a quick chat after all the focus on the exam. But for many independent schools, this is the part that really shapes what happens next. It’s rarely just a formality.
“Widespread tutoring ensures that plenty of candidates will pass the written exams with flying colours, so it’s down to the interview to sort the highly tutored from the highly teachable.”
By the time your child gets to the interview, the school already knows their results, has read the reference, and seen the application. The interview is about something else: character, interests, maturity, and how they get on with people. These are the things you can’t show on paper. In the end, schools are looking for:
Genuine curiosity – do they ask questions back, go off on an interesting tangent, or light up when they talk about something they really care about?
How they think, not what they’ve memorised – a thoughtful, slightly messy answer worked out on the spot is often better than something that sounds rehearsed.
How they handle being gently challenged – sometimes the interviewer will ask a follow-up that feels tricky on purpose, just to see how your child copes when they don’t know the answer straight away.
Social ease and manners – things like eye contact, listening properly, and chatting to an unfamiliar adult without you stepping in.
Fit with the school’s own community and values – it’s not just your child being judged; the school is also working out if they’re the right fit for your family.
At this age, interviews feel a bit more structured. Your child might be asked what they enjoy at school, what they read for fun, or how they approach a subject they like. Group activities often come up too, so schools can see how children work together as well as on their own.
16+ (sixth form entry)
For sixth form, the conversation feels more like a real academic chat. Your child might talk about subject choices, future plans, or even wider reading and current events linked to what they want to study. This is as close as it gets to a grown-up interview.
The Trap to Avoid
Why Over-Preparing Can Backfire
There’s a story about a strong candidate who missed out on their top-choice school, even with a brilliant application, because every answer in the interview sounded rehearsed instead of real. The admissions director put it simply: everything was too perfect. Interviewers can spot when a child is reciting lines, and answers that sound too polished can actually count against them.
Practised is different from scripted
It’s not about getting rid of nerves or just winging it. The real aim is to help your child get used to talking about what genuinely interests them, so the interview feels like a normal chat they’ve already had at home. Not a performance.
Preparing Well
What Actually Helps
Have real conversations, not mock Q&As – chat about a book they’ve read, a hobby, or something in the news, and let them practise explaining what they think out loud.
Research the specific school together – find out what really appeals to your child (maybe a subject, a club, or a sports team), so they’ve got something real to say if they’re asked why they’re interested.
Practise a couple of questions to ask back – interviewers notice when a child is curious about the school too, not just answering questions.
Talk openly about nerves – remind your child there’s no single right answer, and it’s fine to think out loud.
Don’t rehearse specific answers word for word – talk through the topics, not a script.
Don’t forget the parent interview
Most independent schools will want to meet parents too, just to get a sense of the family as well as the child. The same advice applies here. Honesty matters more than polish. It’s always better to be open about a real concern or question than to try to look perfect.
Building genuine confidence, not a script
If you think your child would find it helpful to have a few relaxed practice chats with someone who isn’t a parent, we’re here for that. Sometimes just talking about their interests, or working through a tricky question out loud, is all it takes for them to feel more at ease on interview day. It’s gentle support, not a script.
The best interview preparation doesn’t look much like revising for an exam. It looks like a child who’s used to talking about what they enjoy, isn’t thrown by a question they don’t know, and feels able to be themselves in the room. That’s what really helps on the day, not a rehearsed script.
